pelbagai dialog, pandangan dan tak kurang pandangan negative yang aku terima dan dengar sepanjang aku menyusukan rayna. contoh dialog adalah seperti dibawah:

situasi 1 (di rumah ibu waktu berpantang)
ibu: ayang, nape anak menangis je tuh? susu x cukup kut..?
aku: ibu insyaallah cukup ibu..ayang dh nekad x nak bagi rayna formula atau nestum selain susu ayang jek
(aku tahu ibu aku risau, risau cucu die lapar..aku paham perasaan itu, cume aku dh bertekad only susu aku smpi rayna 6 bulan)

situasi 2 (aku br naik keje lepas pantang, tgh perah susu kat surau)
makcik 1: eii u, x susah ke bagi perah2 susu nie, nti susah diri u sendri..
aku: susah? kenapa
makcik 1: ye lar, kut nti u kene outstation ke ape? kan susah bb nk nenen jek. ajar le die minum formula..susah u nti tau..anak i sume i uat cm2
aku: owh ye ke..xpe insyaallah nti saya belajar uat cm2
(dalam hati aku, pehal le makcik nie...dh ko x support bf jgn le ko kutuk, diam sudah..tu anak engkau, nie anak aku, aku nk bf anak aku smpi 2 tahun tau..mengerutu jek hati aku nie)

situasi 3 (dalam surau perah susu, baru-baru nie)
kawan 1: awak senang x nk bf baby
aku: insyaallah, kalau itu yg kite nk Allah akan bantu, yg penting kite determine n set kat fikiran kita siap2
kawan 2: owh macam saya memang x de susu, bidan kate urat2 kat B saya nie x selari, so susu x boleh kuar
aku & kawan 1: ye ke...??
kawan 2: kalau org lain basah2 baju, sbb susu banyak, saya lembap jek
aku: owh untung le tuh lembap2 lagi, saya mmg xde lembap2 nie, kering jek...susu saya mmg x banyk mase anak saya baru lahir...tp i x stop..keep on trying bg jugak, sbb saya percaya susu saya cukup utk anak saya
kawan 1: owwh mcm tuh ke...
aku: a ah, kene stimulate bnyk kali, bg jek kat bb, she know how to latch on n dunt give up...besides kuantiti susu ibu akan berubah ikut demand bb, so jgn risau ye kawan2
kawan 1 & 2: owwhh mcm tuh ke....
(aku suka situasi nie, sbb aku boleh share facts n tips on how to bf ur baby...aku akan bgtau ape2 jek info yang aku ada)

so here aku nk share tips bf yang aku dpt through my experience n reading:
1-positive thinking and determination, pasang niat awal2 mase peknen lagi
2-dunt easily give up, percaya Allah akan bantu jika niat kita baik..yang penting truskan usaha samaada direct feeding atau pump
3-disiplin, since we are workin mum, so of course kite kene pump while office hours..stick with your routine, plg mininum pump 3 kali waktu di opis (lagi bnyk lagi bagus)...jgn ngelat kat umah pump skali sebelum tido n skali before pergi opis, insyaallah ur supply will be maintained
4-jgn berdiet ok, ambil makanan seimbang yang secukupnya....igt niat kita nk besarkan anak wif our own liquid gold...so pikir-pikirkan lah wahai kalian

special pose aku susukan my little one

masa aku mula2 mengandung dulu, aku sudah determine yang aku nk breastfeed anak yang bakal aku lahirkan, fully breastfeed ye kalian. aku selalu sangka yang breastfeed nie satu mende yang natural..sume ibu mesti ade skill menyusukan anak. tapi tanggapan aku salah..ianya x semudah yang disangka...

rayna lahir 9 hari awal dr due date and she was admitted to nicu due to air ketuban aku yang sudah kering masa time nak melahirkan...doc suspected rayna maybe dh tertelan darah. while rayna dihantar ke nicu, aku plak warded for 1 day....sowang2 di katil tanpa baby bersama aku...esok tghari aku diminta pulang, jadi aku pulang ke rumah tanpa rayna....sgt sedey, aku hanya sempat susukan rayna rite after die dilahirkan sahaja. bila di nicu, bermacam2 tiub berselirat di tubuh kecil itu.....sukar untuk aku susukan rayna (actually semangat aku tuk susukan rayna semakin luntur di kala itu) :(

rayna, day one

bukan aku x cuba untuk minta extend tinggal di hospital tp masa tu plak ada renovation di ward yang dikhaskan untuk ibu2 bayi di nicu...nk x nk aku terpaksa balik (masih ada sekelumit semangat aku tuk susukan rayna)...
so for da 1st time, aku gagahi jua diriku untuk pump susu, tp hasil yg aku dapat begitu menyedihkan...hanya setitik dua sahaja yang keluar

rayna masih sendirian di nicu, tiada susu yang diberikan hanya glukos & antibiotic yang diberi, sgt rindu pada rayna tika itu...while im at home, hubby pgl kak kiah (tukang urut)...alhamdulillah lepas die urut keluarlah susu aku idam2kan, but kau masih x boleh susukan rayna sbb doc nk check lam perut die either got sumthin unsual or not....berulang alik aku ke hospital untuk 3 hari tuh, on da day yg sepatutnya rayna dh boleh kuar nicu, jaundis die plak keluar, so kene tahan lagi sehari....ibu tahu rayna kuat, walau kene cucuk sana sini ma daughter still can stand strong :)

akhirnya, masuk hari ke lima nurse nicu kol...die kate if u can prove to us that u can breastfeed your baby, hari ni jugak rayna boleh kuar hospital....ya allah bersyukurnya aku masa tuh, quickly we went to hospital...rayna wus looking good at dat time, nurse kate daya latching die kuat...tp masa aku nk susukan die, rayna x nak bukak mulut...tp bila disuakan jari ke dalam mulut..kemain lg die latch kuat2...nurse x putus2 bg advice n kata2 semangat, after 1 hour baru rayna show sign yang die nk susu aku...ya allah! perasaan menyusukan anak itu begitu indah, x tahu nk descrip dengan kata2...bersungguh2 die latch seperti x mahu melepaskan aku masa tu. doc tgk & she said ok now your baby can go home....ya allah ku panjatkan kesyukuran pada mu

so bile bercakap pasal mudah atau tidak menyusukan badan, aku punya pendapat aku sendri, when we are determined insyallah DIA akan makbulkan niat dan hajat kita. never give up...dan jangan sesekali put negative thought in ur mind, keep on pray n berusaha :D

rayna now

as a working mum we have no choice either to use babysitter or maid kat umah. tp bg i i would prefer for babysitter because i dunt like stranger at our home.
now i believe im having a very good babysitter, alhamdulillah....mama lela pandai jaga rayna, every time i fetch her for mama lela's house rayna will show her happy face n trust ma gut feeling dat she been doing a very good job. :D

it is very important for us to ensure either we have a good or bad babysitter. this is a very interesting article...tujuh tanda babysitter jahat, i have found this at http://www.babycenter.com

It's not always easy to know whether your child's caregiver is doing the job she's supposed to. To find out, you may have to do some sleuthing. Some parents who suspect something may be amiss rent surveillance equipment. But it's often possible to tell whether something's wrong without going to that extreme.

You may have trouble on your hands if:

• Your baby isn't happy to see the sitter and has become anxious and withdrawn. A regular caregiver can never replace Mom or Dad, but a baby needs to trust and love his babysitter. Perhaps your child and caregiver haven't bonded, or the babysitter just isn't providing the kind of warmth and comfort your child needs. As in every human relationship, having the right chemistry is important. (If you suspect something more serious is wrong, educate yourself about the signs of child abuse.) (yes definitely, rayna has chemistry wif mama lela, sbb she seems so calm when see mama lela, n bila nak balik she couldn't take her eyes of mama lela)


• Your babysitter seems secretive about how they spent the day. How your baby and his caregiver spend their time shouldn't be a secret. When you come home, you're probably eager to hear about your child and what happened while you were apart. If your caregiver isn't forthcoming about it, either she's not good at communicating with you or she has something to hide. Even a caregiver whose English is limited should be able to convey the ups and downs of your baby's day, and will understand why you want to know. (no, no, no this not happening for me, sbb mama lela will report ape2 aje yang die n rayna buat sepanjang hari :), contoh "kak lela bawak rayna jalan-jalan amik angin arini", i believe her...dan i juga tawakal pada Allah agar diselamatkan rayna dari ape2 perkara yang buruk)

• Your baby has been in one too many easily avoidable accidents. A babysitter must keep her eye on your child and know what he's doing at all times to prevent injury. She may be leaving your child unattended as he sleeps or plays. (alhamdulillah, x pernah plak rayna ade luka ke ape2, pernah le one time dahi rayna lebam, x sempat i tnye die dh explain...kepala cucu die berlaga ngn kepala rayna..xpe2 kepala rayna kuat :D)

• You notice your requests aren't followed. Both of you are working together to care for your child, so a caregiver shouldn't act as if she knows more about him and childrearing than you do. (owh..i will tell wut is gud for rayna, example mama lela bg air masak kat rayna n she did told me..as i exclusively breastfed my baby..i wouldn't allow air masak..so i bgtau mama lela n alhamdulillah die follow :D)

• Your babysitter often shows up late. An undependable caregiver will leave you in the lurch time and time again. Find someone who you know is committed to the job and considerate of your needs. Tardiness and unexplained absences may mean she's unreliable in other ways as well. (nie x berlaku sbb i yang hantar rayna kat umah mama lela, die x pernah xde kat umah each time i hantar rayna)


• Your baby often looks unkempt and dirty. If your little one's caregiver can't take care of the basics, it may be a sign that she's not on the ball when it comes to meeting your child's needs. (hehehe smlm i bgtau mama lela, wahh rayna macam pengawas sekolah sbb rayna nmpk so kemas n her hair was comb neatly hehhhehe)

• Her stories don't add up. Never tolerate someone who steals, lies, or deceives you in any way. You have to be able to trust your caregiver for the relationship to work. (alhamdulillah...i trust her, besides die mmg biasa jaga baby, n mama lela used to take care of her grandchild..we have a mutual trust on each other)

mama lela, she is a very gud lady, her age is like my mum...so i treat her more or less like my mum, all i know she been doing a very gud job since rayna sihat n happy. now badan rayna dh berketak2, alhamdulillah semuanya berkat susu ibu :D bukan nk bangga diri, tp i really proud of myself when i look at my dear rayna because i managed to breastfeed her for about 6 months, insyallah i will extend it until rayna 2 tahun. RAYNA MEMBESAR BAGAI JOHAN.

now ibu wants to imagine hows rayna looks inside that cute little thing :)

baby walker is like a little wagon for our baby, i m still thinking weather to buy or not to buy...so cute when rayna is inside the baby walker but i must consider one thing which is the safety of the baby walker...


so i found this & i should share with u all
http://www.babycenter.com.ph/baby/safety/babywalkerexpert/

Putting a baby in a walker is like giving a teenager a Ferrari -- a dangerous risk. That's why, as of April 2007, Canada has banned the sale of baby walkers.

UK data suggests, however, that more accidents and injuries happen in babywalkers than with any other form of baby equipment. This is because they give babies extra speed (a baby can reach up to one meter per second in one zoom), extra height, and access to multiple hazards.

Most injuries are caused by falls when the babywalker tips and the baby is thrown downstairs or crashes into furniture, heaters, or ovens. There is also an increased risk of your baby being burnt by previously inaccessible objects, such as candles and hot cups of tea. Thirdly, it allows her to reach household poisons, such as perfume, mouthwash, or alcohol, left at a previously safe level.

Most people believe that when a baby is occupied in his little 'wagon', he is safe and can be left unsupervised for short periods. In reality, extra vigilance is needed when your baby is in a baby walker and your baby would be safer left on the floor in a hazard-free room. (Read tips on baby-proofing your house).

Walkers won't help your baby learn to walk and in fact, using one too much may even delay her development slightly. A baby needs to roll, crawl, sit and to play on the floor, in order to reach her developmental milestones.

In spite of the worrying statistics, an outright ban on walkers could be unrealistic. Some experts feel they should be designed only for babies over 9 months of age who are already sitting and crawling, and are limited in the speed that they can travel. It should be compulsory for customers to be given clear safety guidelines when buying a baby walker. (If there are no clear guidelines, be wary and do your due research.)

If someone suggests a walker for your baby consider alternatives or, better still, let her exercise on the floor in the good, old-fashioned way.

Reviewed by Dra. Cynthia Castrillo, pediatrician, March 2009

i should agree with this articles because:
1: Baby walker not really safe for Rayna
2: Baby walker doesn't help Rayna to develop her walking skills, so let her develop it naturally
3: I can save some money, instead of buying bb walker i will definitely buy her lots of toys, yippie rayna

only mother & father knows what best for the babies, it is still up to u weather to but it or not...n i also found that bb walker has its own attraction, for example gives so much fun to your baby, ur baby can moves by herself (of course with supervision for mom n dad) and also we can occupied baby's times while we can do our work.

Walllaaaaaa....this is our last nite menu, yummy

Daging Goreng Kunyit

daging lembut
bawang merah
lada hijau
garam & kunyit secukup rase



Kailan Goreng Belacan

1 ikat kailan
Bawang Merah
Bawang Putih
sepotong belacan
garam & sos tiram

rayna is down by viral infection, poor my little princess
biasanya dia boleh main sowang2, but since yesterday dia sungguh manja
dunt wanna let go of me or ayah...nak berdukung saje
to be frank this is my first experience!

Since Rayna having this infection, I'm so eager to know more about baby and toddler viral infection...so I found this website really helps me by answering all question in my head (http://www.baby-medical-questions-and-answers.com/toddler-infections.html)

Baby and toddler infections are common. Most are caused by viruses (so called viral infections) and most involve the upper respiratory tract (the common cold is the prime example) which are known as viral upper respiratory tract infections. However, some infections are caused by bacteria and will require antibiotics for treatment.

Infant and toddler fever is a common occurrence. A fever is when the body temperature is elevated. The normal body temperature is 37 degrees Celsius(37 C) or 98.6 degrees Farenheit (98.6 F). Once the temperature reaches 38 C or 101 F, we call that fever (or we say the child is febrile or is running a temperature).

It is such a worry when your baby feels hot and has a high temperature. You feel you must bring the temperature down. You are concerned that your baby may be very sick. Don't worry too much. Being febrile is a normal body response and all babies will have a high temperature (have a fever) at some stage. As for Rayna, i'm using asam jawa to bring down the temperature...alhamdulillah berkesan. Not to forget, I basahkan kain n letak kat kepala dia :) pity ma daughter

How to use asam jawa? amik 1 genggam asam jawa, gaul dengan sedikit air...n jadikan die paste yg pekat. Letak di ubun-ubun n seluruh kepala...n if sgt panas letak jugak kat badan dan di celah2 ketiak baby....insyaallah berkesan :)

As at today Rayna is getting better, even xde senyuman manis di bibir tp Rayna dah x panas sgt lagi, pity her sbb I terpaksa tinggalkan die dgn mama lela (bbsitter)....huhuhu i can't wait to go home